End-of-Year Lists to Celebrate and Reflect

It's good for us all to take time to reflect on our own growth. We forget in the day to day, or don't realize, how far we've come. For kids especially, just in the space of a year their growth is usually pretty dramatic. It's nice to help them see this growth over time and celebrate it. 

For the last several years, at the end of the school year, I have made each of my kids a card-- "Congratulations on finishing third grade!" it might say on the front. Inside of it, my husband and I have listed some of their many accomplishments of the past year. I think they always felt special reading these cards (or having them read to them). The card tradition makes a nice keepsake and helps give a little extra pomp and circumstance to reaching that all-important last day of school/eve of summer vacation. 

I looked back over the kids' cards from past years (going back as far as 2015, the year my oldest finished preschool) and smiled at some of the things we'd recorded as important milestones each year:

• You were brave enough this year to run through the sprinkler! (Preschool, M)
• You are so good at using scissors and placing stickers. (Preschool, M)
• You learned to put on your own coat and button and zip your clothes! (Preschool, W)
• You learned to make "7" stars. (Kindergarten, W)
• You always keep us updated on how many days you have been in school this year. (Kindergarten, W)
• You learned two whole new sports-- basketball and tennis. (1st Grade, W)
• You did a great job with all your jobs as a ringbearer. (1st Grade, W)
• You started to enjoy Sudoku puzzles. (2nd Grade, W)
• You taught us cool facts about Jamestown. (3rd Grade, W)

This year I realized it might be fun to have my kids each make their own list for the first time. We did it as a little reflection project on our last "official" day of school recently, although this could be done at any time that it feels right to step back and recognize growth-- at the end of a summer, end of the actual calendar year, before each birthday... 

This is how I framed it for them: I asked them to sit down for a few minutes and list things they had learned this year or things they were proud of accomplishing. I told them to think about "school" stuff like reading, writing, math, science, social studies, etc., but also to think about music, sports, friends, life. They both were really engaged in it, my oldest especially. (I told him after we had finished, that just watching him work on this was an example of his growth; I remember a time when he would not have been able to sit for 20 minutes and fill up two pages easily, without any trouble getting started or complaints of being stuck.) Here are a few gems they each recognized about the past year (all is word-for-word from what they wrote, except my notes in brackets): 

M (age 6):

• I learned my 4th finger and my new bow hold [on violin]. 
• I skied 5 miles and rode my bike 5 miles and hiked 5 miles! [At different times :) ]
• I learned to tie my shoes. 
• I learned to snap [fingers]. 

W (age 10):

• I do a bunch of push-ups every day.
• I built a bunch of cool Lego forts. 
• I started doing the dishwasher every day (not that I'm proud of it).
• I got better (way, way better) at solving problems with M.
• I made several videos on YouTube.
• I got even more competent at glade skiing with my twin tips. 
• I realized that Hamilton is super awesome. 
• I learned a bunch of complicated new words and used them in my writing. 
• I made new friends on my baseball team. 

W said something after we made the lists like, "Wow, I knew I did a lot this year but this list makes me feel really good." Having that hit them was of course exactly the point.

We parents couldn't resist separately noting some things we're proud of too, and didn't want to break our tradition of documenting them in a card. Here are some of this year's accomplishments we came up with for each of the kids as well:

For W:

• You learned to do long division, averages, percentages, and more. 
• You crushed your first 22-mile bike ride.
• You started eating salad-- yay iceberg! 
• You began studying Greek and made us some delicious Greek food.
• You discovered the joys of Calvin and Hobbes. 
• You learned to do video editing and have used it to make several cool projects. 
• You have maintained two penpals. 

For M:

• You learned to ride your bike!
• You learned to READ and you read everything. 
• You memorized lots of Frozen and Moana songs and you sing them beautifully. 
• You learned sign language.
• You were on your first soccer and baseball teams and you learned a lot of skills. 
• You learned to downhill ski and you went on the chairlift for the first time. 
• You grew 3 1/2 inches and needed a bigger violin. 
• You love science and always want to do more science. 
• You can do addition and subtraction. 
• You became a writer and wrote lots of great stories about babies.
• You pour your own milk in your cereal.
• You are a huge help in the kitchen.

We read all these lists-- theirs about themselves, and ours we wrote for them-- aloud at dinner and there were a lot of smiles and nods all around. It was a fun end-of-year or anytime reflection project-- good for self esteem and for developing a growth mindset and just plain fun. 

For the Love of Art: Our Favorite Art Projects this Year

Art was not a reason I set out to homeschool two years ago, but it is one of the many areas in which growth in my kids has surprised me and opened my eyes-- particularly in my oldest. 

W didn't lack good art teachers in school. He had two good ones during his time in school; I was always impressed with the things they'd study and cool projects they'd do. But he didn't like art class and struggled with it, for a few reasons I think. For one, he would often rush to finish because art class was within a tight 45-minute time frame and at a certain point you have to just finish. When emotions are high or he is rushing, the project at hand becomes even more difficult. The teachers would need to help him with the trickier techniques, when they could get to him, and he didn't feel much ownership. Often he would finish off a piece of work with globs of paint, scribbles, or silly doodles-- to cover up his frustration that he couldn't quite get the effect he'd been trying to achieve, like some of the more sophisticated artists around him could. As in all things, he compared himself with others, and in art it made him feel worse and try less hard. He also struggled with attention in school and didn't have the strategies then that he has since found to help with that (and of course had more distractions in school). 

At home he can keep at a project for as long as he wants. He doesn't have others to compare himself to (except his sister, who is at a completely different stage and to whom he is very encouraging in art), so he's become very focused on his particular creations for what they are and for the process. In the past he complained that his paintings looked babyish, but one thing we've done at home is some specific step-by-step painting tutorials (see below). Those have resulted in pieces he's so proud of, he started feeling more capable and more eager to paint in general. Similarly, W always wanted to draw people but felt he was bad at it so avoided it. We've done various online drawing lessons as well as purchased books on how to draw thing like soldiers and military vehicles, and he's also gotten interested in tracing and in drawing images he finds in books or online. The space to pursue his own interests through art, including historical scenes and people in battle, has had major impact. He is driven to do it and has done it more and more of it of his own volition and his skills have grown-- he is so pleased with the way he can draw muscles and bent limbs in action now. 

While there is no one thing I can claim that we've done that has been the ticket, two years of doing art at home, in his own way, in his own time, has really worked wonders for both his abilities and his self esteem. Now seeing himself as a good painter and a good drawer, a creator of incredibly detailed birthday cards, and seeing the effect that all his patient practice has had, his relationship with art has evolved dramatically, and he is more open and positive about any creative opportunity that presents itself. It makes me so happy to finally see him find joy and skill and focus in art.

Onto some favorite projects! 

My kids do plenty of artistic, creative, crafty things all on their own, from M's color-by-number pages and glued-together sculptures and woven potholders, to W's drawings and stop-motion animations and new whittling hobby. But I also enjoy finding a wide range of art projects we can try out together once a week or so. It's a chance to work together as well as learn a new technique or discover new materials. 

I am definitely not an art teacher and that is why I like to share often about the art projects that we do (here and here are some things we enjoyed last year); I can deeply relate to the need for ideas and advice! Here are some highlights from some of the more "official" art projects we've done together over the past year: 

Polymer Clay Crafts

I loved a unit working with Fimo polymer clay in high school, so I bought this set and with the help of some YouTube tutorials, relearned a few techniques with the kids. One big concept is how to make a cane-- a long rod of different colors and thicknesses of clay that, when you slice it, shows a flower or whatever design you've built into it. It's magical! You bake your creations in the oven (on a foil-lined pan, with some good ventilation because it's a little smelly) and when they've cooled fully you can make them into necklaces, earrings, and more. 

(One note: I have done every project on this list with both my kids and this one is truly the only project that I found to be a bit too tricky for my kindergartner (or at least it was early this past fall when we did it). She still had fun playing with the clay, but would have had as much fun playing with Play-Doh, which is softer and easier to sculpt.)

Quilted Pillows

My mother and grandmother made a lot of quilts when I was growing up, and I've made my share of them as well. I was successful teaching my son to knit last year and I wanted to introduce my kids to sewing with a needle and thread this year. I thought making a simple quilted pillow cover might be the way to do it. I got out this quilting book I own, which provides the patterns for many different classic quilt blocks, and let them each choose one they liked. W chose Log Cabin and M chose See Saw. Then they chose whatever colors and prints they wanted from my collection of fabrics and scraps. I helped them pin the cardstock shapes onto their fabrics and cut them out. They laid out their pieces like a puzzle according to their pattern. After that, over several short sessions on many different days, they have pieced together their quilt block, stitch by stitch. They had to learn the concept of right sides together and how to try to avoid tangled threads. I did most of the tying off for my youngest, but her stitches were neat and even! Now they each are very close to having a new pillow.

 

Pastel Tulips

I got the idea for this from Projects with Kids. We did this on a nice day outdoors in two steps. The first was to draw the outlines of our flowers on black paper, go over the pencil with a line of glue, and allow that to completely dry overnight. The next day we shaded and blended our choice of chalk pastels to color them in, the hardened glue providing a nice boundary kind of like stained glass. They came out beautifully and we still have them hanging in the house. 

Pressed or Pounded Flowers

This is another great project for a beautiful spring or summer day. Half the fun is walking around the yard collecting specimens. It causes you to really look and realize how much variety in plant life is around you in wildflower petals and leaves-- even if, like me, you don't have much for intentional flower beds. After collecting, we've made either pressed or pounded flowers. 

For pressed flowers, we laid out a piece of contact paper sticky side up and placed each specimen face down on it. Then we pressed a piece of construction paper onto that so it stuck to the contact paper. We placed the whole thing under a big dictionary for a day or two to help it stick well and the plants to be nice and flat, then trimmed the excess off the edges and displayed. 

For pounded flowers, we placed a piece of white construction paper on a cutting board, taped down at the edges. We laid our flowers and leaves face down on the paper (or so the side with the most pigment was face down), then placed a piece of waxed paper over the top of it. I taped the waxed paper at the edges too so it stayed in place. Then we whacked it with the flat end of a toy hammer (any flat mallet would work) to try to get the pigments to rub off on the white paper. It takes a fair amount of whacking to get the whole shape of a plant to show up. Then we discarded the flowers and checked out the prints we'd made on the paper. Some of them did better than others and came out quite pretty. It was as much a fun science experiment as an art project.  

Pressed flowers

Pounded flowers and leaves

Color Wheels

There are lots of kids' books and activities about the color wheel and color combinations, such as Mouse Paint. But it was fun to get out only the three primary colors of our tempera paints and literally do the mixing to make all the colors ourselves. On a large piece of white paper, they each used a compass to first draw as large a circle as they could, then used a ruler to draw a nice straight line across the middle, and more lines as needed based on the number of sections. I had M make a simpler color wheel consisting of primary and secondary colors, while W made one that had tertiary colors as well. 

Younger kid version: M made a color wheel with six sections in all. She began by painting red, yellow, and blue sections, leaving a blank section between each set of primary colors. Then she mixed yellow and blue in her paint tray, and painted the section between yellow and blue with the green they created. She did the same with the other combinations of primary colors for the other two blank sections and ended up with a wheel that showed red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and purple. 

Older kid version: W split his circle in the beginning into 12 sections total. He also began by painting sections in each of the primary colors, but he left three blank sections between each pair of primary colors. When he then mixed his blue and yellow to make green, he painted the green he made in the middle of those three blank sections between blue and yellow. Next, he used a bit of that green he'd created and added more yellow to it and put it between his green and yellow sections. Then he took some more of his original green he'd created and added more blue to it and painted his blue-green between his blue and his green sections to result in a color wheel with lots of gradations. It was a super-simple project, but they were delighted with seeing real color mixing at work. 

Color wheel for older kids

Color wheel for younger kids

Acrylic Pour Paintings

My sister first did this with her kids and we were so dazzled by their paintings we had to try it. She pointed me to the fact that there are many YouTube videos about how to do acrylic pour painting. Here is a simple, very slow-paced video about how to do it that I watched for background info. We used a canvas and painted it with a base coat of watered-down paint. We painted it black, but white would also be good. Then, while the base coat was still wet, we mixed little cups of watered-down acrylic paints-- liquid enough that it pours easily but not too watery. My kids each chose three colors they wanted. (Dixie cups or plastic shot glasses work well for the paint cups.) We poured some paint onto the canvas and tipped and twisted the canvas around to make the paint run in different directions. You can pour the paints on in whatever amounts you want (err on the side of less at first because you can always add more). You can pour them all in the same spot or near each other or far from each other. You can use a straw to blow at the paint and make it move around, and all sorts of other techniques you can Google or just experiment with. (Here is an article just for some ideas of the many different techniques you can use when pouring.) Almost whatever you do, it makes striking abstract art. 

I figured this would be a pretty quick project because of the nature of it, but they were at it a surprisingly long time, tipping and twisting and completely absorbed trying to get it to look just so. This would make a fun project for a party or for any age (and would be another great outdoor one, although we did it in the winter).  

Scribble Drawings

We watched a great live online talk with illustrator Jason Chin on Earth Day. In it we got a simple, liberating idea: make a scribble or a fast little doodle on a blank piece of paper. Then, put your pen down and look at it. Turn the paper all around and see what you can see in your scribble. Does it look like a balloon? A hand? The flame of a candle on a birthday cake? Choose what you see in the scribble and then make the rest of the drawing based on that. Chin demonstrated this a couple times and it was amazing how by the time he was done each time, the once-random scribble didn't look like a scribble any more but looked like an intentional part of the fun drawing it became a part of. I thought this was a great activity that was less a one-day art project and more a lesson to always carry with us: it's okay to make mistakes, and anything can become art with imagination and multiple ways of seeing.   

Tissue-Paper Flowers

We've made tissue paper flowers a few times. They are so colorful and last forever! All you need is tissue paper and pipe cleaners. Sometimes we use a Klutz book and kit we have that provides directions on how to make various types of paper flowers from simple to complex. Recently we tried following the online directions from The Craft Patch to make simple, large, bright, showy flowers. Pictured is an in-progress wreath made by wrapping our paper flower stems onto a wire coat hangar.  

Papier-Mache Bowls

This is messy. It also has to happen over the course of several days because of all the drying times. But it's a rewarding, colorful result and a good skill to know. I posted all the materials and steps for it in this blog post. 

Step-by-Step Painting Tutorials

I've enjoyed a few paint and sip experiences myself and we've enjoyed the kid version as well over the last couple of years. Step-by-step online tutorials, both in video form and in written form, have been a game changer when it comes to painting, especially for my oldest (my youngest still gets a lot of enjoyment out of the act of painting, regardless of the results). Painting something that looks good, in which he did multiple steps he wouldn't have necessarily thought of himself, makes him feel so proud. And while the kids are following a guide, they also have the freedom to omit or add portions they want to their paintings, as well as choose their particular colors and other details. Even when we all paint the exact same project, they all come out so different and with so much personality. Painting tutorials have also taught us some useful techniques that have carried over into other painting projects. One favorite site is Step by Step Painting, which has a bunch of tutorials that are simpler so specifically aimed at kids. We've also had some luck just searching and choosing tutorials on YouTube when there is a specific subject we want to paint, like recently when W wanted to paint a lighthouse in a storm.   

Traced Portraits

We looked at some striking portraits by artist Kehinde Wiley, who creates vibrant botanical backgrounds. Then I printed off a photo of each of my kids. They traced the photo, which was more challenging than tracing a drawing with distinct lines; they had to really study facial features and decide what to trace in Sharpie, what to trace in pencil, and what details to fill in later. Then we copied their tracings onto regular white paper and they colored them in, being especially creative with floral and leafy backgrounds-- we picked things around our yard to inspire the backgrounds. (We borrowed this project idea from the Park Hill School District's online art curriculum.) 

Holiday Crafts

We made a few fun things around the holidays: cranberry chains, snowflake ornaments made from toilet paper tubes and glitter, Christmas tree tree ornaments made from popsicle sticks and from ribbons, and our annual gingerbread houses.  

Sharpie Pop Art

We learned a little about Pop Art (including this quick video intro about it from Tate Kids) and then made these Andy Warhol-inspired Sharpie creations. We each chose our own object to repeat in four quadrants on a square piece of paper, outlined in black Sharpie, and colored in different, bright colors. Fun and easy. 

 

Abstract Popsicle Stick Art

This was another bright, easy project, fun for any age and for making collectively. We began with jumbo rainbow popsicle sticks, and each painted a bunch of them in whatever abstract patterns and designs we wanted. When they were dry we sorted them out by color and arranged them into squares, then glued them on a large piece of cardboard cut to size. I got the idea from Preschool Powol Packets. 

Aboriginal Art Prints

This is my favorite example from this year of the value in simply trying out some brand new materials and techniques. The kids were so excited when I told them we were going to try printmaking. First we learned a little about Aboriginal Art (YouTube of course), then each sketched our choice of subject. (Most of the art we'd looked at had animals as the subject, so I chose a fish. My kids were much more creative-- W drew multiple animals heading toward various destinations while M drew Elsa and some snowflakes.) Next we copied our drawing onto scratch-foam board-- we etched the picture right into the Styrofoam using a wooden stylus, but a pencil would also work. Then I poured some block printing ink out (into a large plastic take-out container lid), and rolled a brayer (small roller) in it, then on our scratch board to cover it completely with ink. Then we pressed a large piece of construction paper over our inked scratch board and rubbed over the back of the paper with a flat, heavy object to make sure every area got printed (a rolling pin might have also worked). It was a thrill to slowly peel back the construction paper and see that we had indeed made a print. Now that we've learned some basic steps of printmaking, there are a lot of cool projects we could do. (This project idea we also borrowed from the Park Hill School District's art curriculum online.) 

Tie-Dyed T-Shirts

Recently my daughter and I each tie-dyed a t-shirt (my son opted out of this project). We've used this Tulip kit several times and it works great; you only need to have white clothing or other things on hand to dye. The kit includes instructions and ideas for different techniques of tie-dying that yield different results. The gloves included in the kit are definitely worth wearing from the moment you open the package, because there is dust from the dye that somehow gets all over your hands even before adding the water. (Speaking of mess, perhaps this is obvious, but tie-dying is best done standing at a table, outdoors, wearing a smock and gloves on a nice day!) After the shirts have spent the night wrapped up in rubber bands and plastic, it is so much fun to unwrap them and find out what you've created.